Dealing with Gossip


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New! JUL-28-05 21:7:52	Forum: Christian Singles Member Surveys RE: Dealing with Gossip Reply to Topic		Submitted Anonymously
	Gossip is a painful and ugly act of unkindness. As a victim of defamation, slander and blatant gossip I have finally been able to put my life in order. I had to divorce my husband in order to do so. It took daily prayer for my husband who defamated my character, it took daily prayer for the friends who fed into the gossip and slander, it took daily prayer for the relationships that have been impacted and changed forever as a result of one bitter persons gossip. God help us to realize that gossip and speaking evil words is as much a sin as blasphemy and adultery. Please keep me in prayer as God continues to heal my heart and bring restoration and peace to my life once again.

New! JUL-21-05 11:17:54	Forum: Christian Singles Member Surveys RE: Dealing with Gossip Reply to Topic		Submitted Anonymously
	The bible says 'how lovely on the mountain are the feet of them who bring good news...' However there are times people find themselves gossiping about others. You see, I believe the key is to ask the Lord to help us work in love. If this is the center of our focus, then instead of being catalysts of gossip, we will become discouragers of it. When someone comes to say something to you about others, let the baton stop with you. Don't pass it on. Gossip has wrecked homes, businesses, offices and visions from God. Mal 10:16 indicates that all we say is recorded. The question to him/her who is gossiped about is, 'what would Jesus do?' To him who spreads gossip, whether the information is correct or not, remember heaven records everything you are saying. Would you like it to be read back to you in the presence of others? Selah!!!

New! JUN-24-05 1:22:55	Forum: Christian Singles Member Surveys original: Dealing with Gossip Reply to Topic		Submitted Anonymously
	Thanks for your kind comments. Think this last bout of gossip was strong enough it came to the attention of a number of people, which may have "worked together for good" though it was a bit hard to handle at the time. Feel like I've gotten a silent but firm vote of confidence from several. The person going to the church board has said nothing directly (and may never), but there seems to be a definite attitude change. People have been praying. I know because I've felt held up and there have been answers to prayer and silent encouragements. I learned a long time ago to never under estimate the power of prayer.

New! JUN-21-05 14:49:42	Forum: Christian Singles Member Surveys RE: Dealing with Gossip Reply to Topic		hooiserlady Female 61-70
	Even if something that we have heard about someone may be true but would only make that person look bad or be hurtful, what good are we doing by repeating it to someone? We have all heard the saying, "If you can't say something good about someone then don't say anything." I heard someone say "When you hear something bad about a person, try to say something good about them."

New! JUN-21-05 14:33:12	Forum: Christian Singles Member Surveys Gossip Reply to Topic		intell Female 41-50
	I think it is high time for us to consider accommodating the qualitative development of our faculties. A permanent point of truth is that "GREAT MINDS DISCUSS IDEAS, AVERAGE MINDS DISCUSS EVENTS, SMALL MINDS DISCUSS PEOPLE". Everyone discusses someone from time to time because we are part of each other's lives. There is also incidences where one needs to air one's feelings and ideas concerning another person outside of the hearing of such an one, when incedences occurr or as a point of reference. However,gossiping is a 'sick' and disgusting approach to life and somepeople make it a way of life. Not everything we observe about someone needs to be heard. Oftentimes, we need to "see and be blind, hear and be deaf". There is no gossiper without the ardent listener and if you dont start it, there is no tale told. Suppose someone should say about you what you are saying about the other person, how would you feel? When someone approaches you with a "sweet piece of juicy news", simply ask "Did you tell/ask him/her?" or "Do you want me to tell/ask him/her for you?" If the response is not in the affirmative then politely say, "I cannot listen to this because I would not want someone saying that about me behind my back". Your friend maybe upset about your response, but they will respect your position. FRankness hurts, but "honesty is the best policy". The gossip will stop because there is no listener.It's not about liking you. It's about loving and respecting what you stand for.That strengthens the QUALITY (not the # of years)of the friendship and God is well pleased. As a final observation, I make this coloquilal reference point as an analogy, "THE SAME DOG WHO BRINGS ONEBONE IN,WILL ALSO TAKEONE OUT". Ponder these things prayerfully.

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